One of Australia's top OnlyFans stars has detailed the “difficulties” of dating as someone who works in the sex industry, pulling back the curtain on balancing her personal life and career.
From being a Reddit webcam streamer in 2018, to being a stripper in college, to being named Australia's Best Newcomer in Porn in 2023, Nova Hawthorne has had an illustrious career, earning $30,000 in the last week alone.
But as the 29-year-old reveals, it wasn't without a lot of hard work. Yahoo Lifestyle Last week's paycheck was the result of 80 hours of live streaming as a “camgirl” on just one website.
“It was just a short burst of crazy energy in front of a camera for a group of people, doing a show with toys, oil, striptease, dancing,” he said on the platform that week. explained Mr. Hawthorne, who was the second-highest earner in the country. . “We also spent a lot of time on her one-on-one video chats with members, which charged up to $18 per minute.”
Since making so much money, this content creator has been able to pay off all his student loans, buy an apartment and buy a plot of land just to set up as a filming studio.
But Hawthorne said she lost her sense of sexuality along the way.
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The woman, who grew up in a small town in Gippsland, south-east Victoria, struggled to balance the conflicting parts of herself while living up to her stage name as an adult entertainer.
“I was going through a period where I didn't have control over my sexual identity or my sex life and felt like every encounter was for work,” Hawthorne said. “Then I thought, 'Okay, let's drop the persona and enjoy my personal sex life.'
“And that's difficult because sometimes I enjoy my sex life professionally. So I had to make this distinction. This is not a business, there are no cameras, this is just for me. It's been a totally wild experience and I'm not going to share it with an online audience.”
So Hawthorne, who identifies as bisexual, went on a lesbian night at a sex club.
“Within the first five minutes, we were all going to get naked, sit in a hot tub, and introduce ourselves by our actual real names,” she explained.
“But before I got that chance, someone yelled at me across the hot tub and said, 'Are you Nova Hawthorne?' In that moment, I was ready to relax and switch. I realized I couldn't turn it off and I felt like I had to stay Nova because I was already recognized, and I didn't want to mix them up.”
For Hawthorne, things still get confusing at times.
“I feel like I have to be 'on' all the time, but ever since that night I've tried to mix my personal and work life a little more, instead of keeping them completely separate.” That's easier for me.
“And I really want to be honest with people. I mean, the only thing that's really false about me is my name.”
Men who “fetishize” her lifestyle
It's no surprise that Hawthorne finds dating a little difficult working in this industry, but it's not for the reason you think.
“I've been on dates where people were like, 'Yeah, that's totally fine.' [her line of work]And they are welcoming and accepting,” she explained.
“But once they start to understand what my job actually means, it slows down a little bit. And that I actually see this as really professional, that it's flashy and glamorous.” The surface drops when they realize that I'm not a genius, that I'm not a genius, that I'm super social at all times of the day, that I don't always look really sparkly and nice, that sometimes I'm on the couch. That I like to be a bit of a gremlin and that I don't always have orgies with my sexy friends.''
In a harsh reality for the 29-year-old OnlyFans star, when her dates stop “fetishizing” her lifestyle, they lose interest.
“My biggest fear when I'm in a relationship is that someone is dating me just because they want to do a shoot with me,” she said, adding that her followers were wondering if her videos He explained that when something like this happens, he often comments that there is “no problem” in taking pictures together. They were dating her.
“I thought they just wanted to shoot with porn stars and show it off to their friends, when in reality I don't shoot with men at all.
“I date less these days because I have a very strong vetting process.”
grandma's approval
But one thing that Hawthorne did not struggle with was gaining approval from his family, especially his 70-year-old grandmother, who the OnlyFans star joked about when highlighting Hawthorne's success.
“Ever since I got my first job at a strip club, I've always been open about what I was doing to my grandmother and my mother,” she explained. “I've never had anything to hide…and when I told them I was going into porn, they took it seriously and knew I was safe, strong, happy and successful. ”
For Ms. Hawthorne, a single mother who receives a disability pension and lives in public housing, the money she earns now is “intangible” to her mother, and “she doesn't really understand the importance of it,” but she doesn't feel like it's something for her. He says he couldn't do it. Couldn't be more proud.
“My mom is always excited when I do a new photo shoot,” the spicy streamer said. “She asked me to send her a picture so she could show it to her friends and brag about it.”
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