child rearing
A woman living her dream said her life turned into a nightmare overnight.
The American travel influencer said she has been stalked by online trolls and cyberbullies, mostly men, who have spewed harsh words at her since she posted about her happy childless life at age 37 last fall. .
But Emily Hart, now 38, is struggling to live her life to the fullest without being attacked for it after writing an article for Today.com detailing her harrowing experience. I realized I wasn't the only one.
“The response to this essay has been absolutely amazing, overwhelmingly positive with feedback from a lot of women who can relate to it,” she told the Post.
Hart, who goes by emilyventures on Instagram, first posted a reel of herself exploring the beautiful destinations she's been to, with the title “37 years old: Never married.'' I don't need children. ”
It has been viewed over 16 million times.
But since then, she has been subjected to hateful comments.
One line she shared in her essay read: “No kids, never married, and 37 years old, just a big kid with no responsibilities, never done anything useful, pathetic cow. '' is written.
She wrote that “hundreds of commenters an hour” called her “pathetic” and speculated that feminism “led her to believe she was happy.”
Hart pointed out that many of the commenters are men who have pictures of their children in their profile pictures. Several women have also messaged her. “Many of them had Bible verses or 'kindness' in their bios, and they told me all kinds of things like, 'You're going to die alone,' and 'Nobody needs you anyway.' ,” she added.
Based on her rant, she suspects her post was spread among the “tradwife” side of the internet. There, content creators glorify staying at home and adhering to traditional gender roles.
The actress, who has been an influencer for more than a decade, said she doesn't think she slept more than 30 minutes at a time during the first week after posting.
She then fell into depression, suffered from “digestive problems, low energy, panic attacks, and angry outbursts,” and her skin began to break out, she wrote.
As an experienced influencer, she was used to dealing with some nasty comments and simply blocked the haters or deleted the awful comments and then moved on with her life.
Unfortunately, it seems the hateful words came in faster than she could delete them. Sharing her personal life online once gave her great confidence, but now the opposite is happening.
“I tried to explain to my friends, 'It's not normal to have this much negativity thrown at you,' but the truth is, I've never experienced anything like this, or will ever experience anything like this.” Not many people do,” she wrote.
“There is no roadmap or DSM diagnosis for going viral, but as I know from my experience, it can be life-changing,” she added.
She felt pressured to write a follow-up post explaining that she doesn't necessarily want to avoid marriage and having children forever, but that's where her life is at the moment and that I didn't mean to prevent her from having fun.
Her perspective on social media has changed since the negative comments piled up.
“For several months after posting, I felt nervous every time I opened Instagram,” she wrote in her essay. “An app that was a big part of my livelihood had become something I feared.”
Hart, a solo traveler who claims to have visited all 50 states and nearly every national park, shares her struggles along with her travels to spread awareness about cyberbullying.
“I want to use my experience to clear the scene for others, and I believe the way to do that is through vulnerability and honesty,” she said.
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